Welcome back to my blog series Meet the Parents – Advice for New Mummies and Daddies. This week we’re chatting to Fee from Not Just Another Mum.
Tell me a bit about you, your blog and your family.
I’m Fee a mid thirties Mum to our 2 kids who are 14 & 8 – jeez how did they get so old? I never wanted kids when I was younger – that was always something other people saw in their future but not me. Until I had one that is, if I had my way we’d have 4 by now. Me and their Dad have been hoping for a 3rd for many years but not got very far – it seems I am broken. My blog can be quite random, I have no set blogging schedule and just write when I feel like it. Lately there’s been a few infertility posts, which I write for purely cathartic reasons. Other than that I write about general parenting stuff and toys/books etc.
What one essential item would you insist on putting in your hospital bag (for you)?
Socks, my feet were absolutely freezing in both of my labours – other than that I’m easy.
Warning for any of you planning to use a tens machine – take spare batteries, mine ran out.
Oh no! I can’t imagine running out of battery was much fun!
Was there anything unexpected that happened during labour, that you think first-time mums should be prepared for?
My labours took forever, you hear about it happening but I never thought that would be me. Also (possibly tmi) when pushing with my son I did a teeny tiny poop. This is apparently perfectly normal – I however was mortified. Ooh also I wanted to use the birthing pool at the hospital, they were both being used. I think you have to be open to your plans changing at any moment.
Haha, you can’t beat an overshare! I’ve heard that it’s perfectly normal too and most women don’t even realise that they’ve done it.
What would be your one essential product for a newborn that no new parent should live without?
Dry shampoo – haha. For me it was my moses basket so I could take them around the house with me while they slept. They had to be in the same room as me or it made me anxious.
What’s the best piece of advice you were given before your first child was born?
I wasn’t really given any that I can remember. I was 21 and I think my family were in denial that I was having a baby. But I would go back and tell myself not to buy so much stuff – so much was totally unnecessary and unused/unworn.
We have borrowed lots of things from friends in an effort to avoid this to some extent!
What’s the worst piece of advice you were given?
Same answer really. Can’t think of anything. Although something my brother said afterwards was ‘You’re breastfeeding? I didn’t think you’d be into all that hippy stuff.’ Never fails to make me laugh.
Haha! Yes, because only hippies breastfeed…
What would be your top tip for a first time parent-to-be?
Trust your instincts, don’t be afraid to ask for help and do be afraid to say no to people. They will all want to come and see you but if you want to sleep/don’t feel like visitors make them wait. Spending time alone with your other half and baby is your right. Also it’s ok not to be gloriously happy all the time, It’s hard work and you’re new at this!
Sage advice. My mother was horrified when I told her that I didn’t want her to visit for the first two weeks (she was allowed to the hospital to meet the baby; I’m not a total monster)!
What’s the hardest thing about being a new parent?
The lack of sleep (obvs) and when you suddenly realise that they are totally dependent on you for everything. And the sore boobs – well you did ask.
What’s the best thing about being a new parent?
The new baby smell – not the nappy smells.
Thanks for that great advice, Fee! You can find Fee over on Twitter.
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