Pregnancy Diary Week 21

February 1, 2016

This week has been a bit of a roller coaster pregnancy wise. It started off on such a high last Sunday when hubby felt the baby move for the first time. We weren’t expecting him to be able to at this stage as I’d only been able to feel the baby moving myself for around ten days, but the baby gave me a massive boot (thanks little girl!) and there was no mistaking it for something else (*ahem*wind*ahem*). It was magical and so lovely seeing hubby’s eyes light up and the excitement in his face. It must be so difficult for husbands when the mum has everything going on inside her and they are on the outside. So it was special to have all three of us share that moment.

I’ve had quite a lot of work this week at the school I spend a lot of time at (and love!). I’ve been working with some of the younger children again and it’s so funny seeing how they react to my pregnancy, especially as I’m growing. The year two children seem particularly obsessed and regularly give it a little rub when they talk to me! Very sweet, and I don’t find it creepy in the way I would if an adult did it!

Then, on Friday, it all went a bit pear shaped. Hubby and I were getting ready for work and I noticed that I had started to bleed. Cue frantic calls to the emergency midwife, calls to schools to let them know what was happening (fortunately both were completely supportive and understanding) and quite a few fearful tears from me. It was honestly the most terrifying moment of this pregnancy, especially as while I knew it wasn’t bright red blood (bad news), I couldn’t say for sure that I thought it was brown (old blood, and apparently less of a concern) so I was initially told I would be brought in for a scan, only to then be told I just had to wait for the midwife to arrive to listen to the baby. In a few hours! Needless to say this was the most agonising wait we’ve ever had, especially as the baby decided it didn’t want to move much at all that morning (probably because I was so tense).

I had to keep telling myself that they obviously didn’t think it was an emergency otherwise there’d be far more of a rush going on, the bleeding was pretty minimal and had stopped by the time the midwife arrived, and she found the heartbeat straight away. The midwife said she wasn’t concerned as the baby’s heartbeat was strong and I wasn’t experiencing any pain, although any kind of bleeding isn’t ideal. The thing that really struck me was that she said there wasn’t really anywhere for me to go, as up to 16 weeks any issues are dealt with at the Early Pregnancy Unit, and anyone over 24 weeks is sent to the delivery suite. So where does that leave someone in the intervening eight weeks?!

Hopefully I won’t have to find out as everything seems (touch wood) to have gone back to normal and the baby has been kicking away almost constantly all weekend. Which while it has at times been super uncomfortable, I’m not going to complain for a second as it means I know that baby girl is letting me know she’s there and alive and kicking. And for that I couldn’t be more grateful x

Pregnancy Diary Week 21

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18 responses to “Pregnancy Diary Week 21”

  1. Kel says:

    So lovely for Mr W to have felt her already, such a special time.
    I think there are a lot of questions to be answered about the care/provision for mums and babies between 16 and 24weeks.

    • Jules says:

      It seems so strange to me…if it’s considered that delivery suite isn’t appropriate before 24 weeks, then why can’t mum’s earlier than that go to the same place as those before 16? I don’t understand why some women can be left in limbo! xx

      • Kel says:

        In my experience EPAU is really just to establish whether a pregnancy is existing or not. Sadly Mothers that require other things at this time are placed inappropriately and feel like an add on, rather than in a place truly fit for purpose but that is just my experience at one particular hospital. I think that the 24week thing for delivery suite is largely down to the viability of the pregnancy and the fact that before 24weeks a baby doesn’t actually exist in terms of birth certificates etc as wrong as that is in my mind.

        • Jules says:

          I didn’t know that about birth certificates. That seems so wrong and I’m so sorry you’ve had a bad experience xx

  2. Kel says:

    Didn’t mean to hijack your post! just think it is interesting how provision and support seems vary so much at different points of pregnancy…I hadn’t really thought about it that much before. Thought provoking blog u have here Mrs W! X

    • Jules says:

      Not hijacking at all! I think it’s an important discussion to have and there must be so many women who find themselves in ‘limbo’. Maybe we should start some kind of campaign… x

  3. Mmt says:

    Scary tuff…I’m so glad everything is okay. Rest up! Xxx


  4. Eek how scary! And worse that they couldn’t even tell you why you bled. Still, glad everything is okay, phew. What a scare though! X

  5. Silly Mummy says:

    Glad it was all okay. I had a bit of bleeding on a couple of occasions with first pregnancy – it was nothing, but really worrying at the time! I’ve never heard of what the midwife said to you about where to go, actually. I’ve spent quite a lot of time at EPAU and, yes, there wouldn’t really be anything there for them to address issues later in pregnancies. However, round my way, any concerns thereafter would be dealt with at Maternity Unit. They have an outpatients, which does scans, assessment unit for heart monitoring, etc, and various wards. Obviously there is the delivery suite too, but if they have any concerns at any point after first trimester, that maternity unit will assess and refer as appropriate – I had various checks due to small size concerns, and so had extra scans and heart traces. Seems very odd for Midwife to say there would be nowhere that would assess you if there was a concern! #marvmondays

    • Jules says:

      I’m pleased there’s provision where you are. I was quite surprised when she said it too! I suppose if I were actually bleeding heavily I would be sent somewhere. I discovered last night that after 22 weeks you are referred to the delivery suite here, but even they told me that the only monitoring they would do is heart rate as there’s ‘no point doing anything else’. Not what you want to hear when you’re looking for reassurance!

  6. Bless you, it’s such a worry when you have any bleeding in pregnancy. I’m so glad everything is well with your little girl. It’s so amazing when your partner can feel kicks too, although mine never had the patience to leave his hand there for more than 5 seconds last time!

    • Jules says:

      Thank you. I’m still worrying now! I think midwife thinks I’m being paranoid but I’d rather check and know all ok!

  7. Wow, such a lot has gone on in such a short space of time. Wonderful that your husband got to feel the baby move but awful that you had that scare. Hope it’s all reassuringly uneventful from here on. x

  8. Oh lovely, how scary for you all. I love reading your updates and really felt for you reading about your experience. Really glad to read that the bleeding has stopped and that everything seems to be normal. Hopefully everything continues to progress well, you have no more scares and it becomes a distant memory very quickly. x Emily #MarvMondays

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