Welcome to my new guest post series, Ponderings on Two, where I ask a different blogger and parent of more than one child, to share their experience of having a second child. This week, we hear from Stephanie, who writes her blog, A Farm and a Baby.
Tell me a bit about yourself, your family and your blog.
I am a 29 year old, NICU nurse from Berkshire. I started my blog during my second pregnancy following my 20 week scan, we found out that my son had 6 toes. I found it a brilliant way to process my thoughts, feelings, worries and fears.
What age gap did you have between your first and second children? What’s their relationship like?
2 years and 2 weeks. My daughter, now two, absolutely adores her brother (5 months), she likes to hold him, give him kisses, try and feed him. She sometimes gets a bit jealous, but on the whole she has taken to the change really well.
What was the hardest thing about having a second child?
Splitting your time! I have breastfed my son and initially it was really hard to put him down and spend time with my daughter. Over time it has got easier but I still struggle not having ‘girl time’.
What was the best thing about having a second child?
The love. There just seems to be so much of it flying around. The bond they seem to have already is beautiful, and I am hopeful it will keep being this strong.
Were there any products that made life with an older sibling and a newborn easier?
My Liberty wrap sling – I was able to settle my son and spend time with my daughter.
iPad – I hate to say it, but on a cluster feeding day my daughter would get really irritated that I couldn’t spend time with just her. So I used to put pepper pig on the iPad and we would sit on the sofa together whilst I breastfed.
What’s the best piece of advice you could give someone expecting their second baby?
Don’t worry about the tantrums that will probably occur from your older sibling – they do pass and it does get easier.
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