Welcome to my new guest post series, Ponderings on Two, where I ask a different blogger and parent of more than one child, to share their experience of having a second child. This week, we hear from Laura, who writes at Five Little Doves.
My name is Laura, mummy to five and wife to one, living in Lancashire sharing the things, people and places we love over at Five Little Doves. With five children, four in our arms and one in our hearts, our lives are every bit as crazy as you would imagine, but we wouldn’t change it for all the world.
There are 2 years and 3 months between my eldest two, a gap I had planned and hoped for, and was over the moon to think that my boys would be so close.
Tragically our second child was stillborn at full term which was devastating, of course, and incredibly difficult to navigate our grief whilst finding the strength to parent a two year old.
With the subsequent breakdown of my marriage, and meeting my second husband, there is an 8 year age gap between Lewis and Eva. Having waited for so long for a sibling, Lewis and Eva are very close and as a parent it is so lovely to witness.
The hardest thing for me was the fear that I wouldn’t love a second child in the way I loved my first. It turns out that you don’t need to share your love, you simply develop more love for each new baby.
The best thing for me was the thought of the two of them growing up together as siblings and best friends. I was so excited for that, seeing my two boys together, it’s something I wonder about every single day.
By the time that Eva came along Lewis was 8, and more than capable of entertaining himself. With 15 months between Eva and Megan, and 12 months between Megan and Harry, I would say that the Jumperoo saved my sanity on more than one occasion!
My advice would be to remember that every baby is different. I think it’s very easy to compare siblings, and worry when they don’t hit the milestones at the same time, or if one is a little more difficult than the other. I learned very fast that no two children are every the same but seeing them together, and watching their relationship develop, is the most amazing thing I have ever witnessed.
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