Ponderings on Two – Advice from Messy Blog UK

March 28, 2018

Welcome to my new guest post series, Ponderings on Two, where I ask a different blogger and parent of more than one child, to share their experience of having a second child. This week, we hear from Leslie, who blogs at Messy Blog UK.

Tell me a bit about yourself, your family and your blog.

Ok, So I’m Leslie. I live in Peterborough with my husband Liam and together we have 3 children – Dexter is 4 (almost 5) Paisley is 2 and Bridget is 9 months. I started blogging when I realised I was 21 weeks pregnant with Dexter. It started as a sort of online baby book and I currently write about activities that we can all do together focusing on their different ages and capabilities.

What age gap did you have between your first and second children? What’s their relationship like?

We tried for a year on and off to conceive Paisley and Dexter was 2 and a half when she was born. He was besotted with her from the moment she was born. These days though, they are either best friends or fighting like nobody’s business. Paisley packs a mean punch and won’t let Dexter walk all over her but at the same time, she completely idolises him and copies every thing he does. If he picks up a stick she has to have one too and she has even begun to copy his whining – I can’t tell their cries apart sometimes.

What was the hardest thing about having a second child?

Trying to find activities for both of them. Dexter was 3 when Pais was 6 months old and starting to move around, put things in her mouth etc which meant that he couldn’t have toys with small bits out while she was awake and a lot of the crafts and things we did together weren’t suitable or had to be adapted for Paisley to be able to join in. Eventually it meant we just didn’t do as much ‘fun stuff’.

What was the best thing about having a second child?

Having a second, and now a third means they won’t be lonely. There is always someone to play with. Someone to speak to about things, someone to reminisce with when they are older. They will learn how to share, have respect and socialise from a very young age.

Were there any products that made life with an older sibling and a newborn easier?

Yes, definitely! Baby wearing was a massive help. I didn’t really wear Dexter much but I found everything so much easier if I carried Paisley. I could hold Dexter’s hand if we went out and not have to think about pushing a buggy. I didn’t struggle on the buses because there was no awkward buggy to wrestle on and off with.

Our Lapbaby was a genius product. It allowed Paisley to sit up on my lap without me having to hold her, meaning I still had my hands free to help Dexter, work at my laptop, help paisley with weaning and even cut up my own dinner, all without having to hold Paisley still. I would definitely recommend one!

Also, the Summer Infant Pop n Jump – We’ve started using this recently with Bridget. Although she isn’t a newborn, we started using this when she was 6 months old. Paisley had just turned 2 and it just meant that Bridget could be in amongst the bigger two and feel like she was part of whatever was going on, but it meant she wasn’t going to get trampled on or knocked over.

What’s the best piece of advice you could give someone expecting their second baby?

Don’t worry about not being able to love them both the same. You’ll love them both extra! You’ll love the new baby as you did your first and the first one you will love more for the way they love the new baby too.

Thank you, Leslie! You can find Leslie over on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.


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